I read this last year when it was published and came back to it tonight ’cause it was a hard day. Just in a normal way with a toddler and a baby. Mr Daddy was back at the office Monday and Tuesday (crèche days) but home today, but the whole family now has a slight cold. Little dude was rough with his baby brother several times and many toys were thrown, and he pulled my hair a couple of times, etc, normal “terrible two” stuff. At one point I sent him to his room for time out and when I asked if he was ready to come out and be a gentle big brother he said “stay in dtime out”. I’m thinking I might change how I present time out, make it more neutral. For the next while I’m going to try and say “I think you might need some quiet play by yourself to calm down” – let him know that if he wants to initiate quiet play to manage his feelings of frustration, that’s good too. Steer it away from punishment and towards strategy for emotional calibration.